I guess I should do one more update

You know I guess there is another update that I should do here, I can't believe how long ago I actually started this blog, things where much different then, the first big change of course is that I am now a widower of course like I stated in my previous post my wife and best friend Sandi Donecker passed away on 11 March 2014.

Second change I guess would be the obvious, I'm no longer 45 I am now 48 and will be 49 in February but one thing that hasn't changed is I am still going to school, or at least I am planning on it. I finished school in San Diego as a Alcoholism and Drug Abuse Counselor and because I still have 21 weeks left in my 9/11 GI Bill I'm going to continue going to school, first updating what I did in San Diego with any requirements that Washington State requires above what California requires, then I plan on taking some Psychology classes to add to what I have already done.

And then there is our son, Jesiah who is now 8 years old and missing his mommy, so things have changed and it is a sad time in our lives right now, but Jesiah and I will be strong and make Sandi proud of her husband and son.

My Wife and Best Friend Sandi Donecker

Myself and my wife and best friend Sandi Donecker who passed away on March 11 2014 at the age of 38

Hello my friends, it has been a long time since I have posted anything here in my blogs under this e-mail address and today I am going to try and get a handle on my blogs, I have many of them and it's not going to be easy but that is my plan.

For those of you who have not heard, I have lost my best friend and my wife of 14 years Sandi Marie Donecker passed away on March 11, 2014, and I announced that on many of my other blogs but for awhile could not remember the password to get on this one, however I remembered today and just wanted to pass that on.

At this time we not totally sure what happened. The day of 10 March was actually a great day, Sandi and I had recently moved into our new apartment on March 1rst and we where making plans that day for how she wanted to decorate the house, that night we watched movies on Netflix and enjoyed a candle light dinner together, we fell asleep while watching the movies and then sometime through the night Sandi passed away, she had no pain and showed no sign of distress when I woke the next morning and found her, the coroner's best estimate is she passed away somewhere between 1 and 5 a.m. and it seems her heart just stopped beating.

So it's been a little over a month now, and I still have many periods where I find myself often crying uncontrollable, no hysterical just a weeping that I can't stop, Sandi was and always will be my best friend and she was a wonderful mother and I miss her so much, I actually yet can't write to much about her passing because the weeping will start again and once it starts it is almost impossible to stop it, most times  I just let it run it's course and eventually the tears will stop, sometimes it's 30 minutes or like today I know I was weeping a good two hours. It's just so hard waking up and suddenly remembering she is no longer sleeping by my side and never will again until the Lord calls me home to heaven as well.

Well thank you for stopping by, I know it has been a long time since I wrote here, I'm trying to get all my blogs in order, some I may let go to the wayside and others I will continue, at this time I have no plans to start a new one, well I take that back I have been thinking of starting a new one, just where I send Sandi a daily little message that hopefully may give someone else in my place some strength and inspiration.

Plastic Paradise Movie - Independent documentary by Angela Sun uncovering the mystery of the Great Pacific Garbage Patch known as the Plastic Paradise

With the search going on for the Malaysian Airline flight in the Indian Ocean how they are always talking about how all the garbage in the ocean is hindering the search, watch this film and you will see what they are talking about 







Plastic Paradise Movie - Independent documentary by Angela Sun uncovering the mystery of the Great Pacific Garbage Patch known as the Plastic Paradise

New Mayor For San Diego

Check out @duanedonecker's Tweet: https://twitter.com/duanedonecker/status/373079906877321216

HA HA HA HA

I know what everyone who (that is if anyone did look at my blogs lately) comes by here every so often  is thinking, Oh here goes Duane again saying THIS TIME FOR SURE I AM GOING TO BEGIN WRITING MORE! as you all sit their laughing behind your hand to be polite until you can't hold it in anymore and it become the biggest belly laugh you've ever had!!

Hey I don't blame you a bit. I personally love writing and it doesn't matter what I write about, I just love to write, however as time has gone by it gets harder and harder too make time to sit down at my computer and do what I am doing right now, write, write, write!!

Now that was the  last thing I am going to say about this situation right now, but give me some time and it will come out in bits and pieces, bits and pieces: The same way my In-laws tore me up in every way possible, especially in the heart.

Ok my friends this is it for tonight, email me if you wish and I will respond as soon as I can, (Which is usually in minutes), everyone have a good night and I will write some tomorrow.


Thank You,
Duane Donecker

Busy, Busy

Sorry I haven't posted in months, but I have been very busy.  I am currently going to school ant Mueller college here in San Diego for Alcohol and Drug Counselor and have just finished the Classroom book learning part and am waiting to start my internship at Veterans Village which is a branch of the Veterans Administration, where I will be working with homeless, addicted veterans.

I am so excited about it and I am told by my Intern Administrator that if you go in there willing to learn and work hard during the internship I will most likely get hired so I am so excited.

I will start keeping my blogs updated again but please have patience!!!

Think Positive

Down Town San Diego/Photo Duane A. Donecker

Thinking positive is probably the most important of the habits to share with you, because you know that everything starts in the mind.  Thoughts turn into feelings, which then turn into actions.  If you tell yourself you can do it, you have increased your chances of accomplishing that goal.  Keep your mind clear and your thoughts positive.  This habit will bring great success to you in your personal and professional life.

GOYA Tip:  When a negative thought comes into your mind, instantly swap it with a positive one.  An example of this would be thinking about a child's smile or someone you know.  This will keep the mind clear of any negative thoughts.

Here is what happened to me, back on 31 Dec 2005 I retired from the navy, found out I had FSH Muscular Dystrophy which because the pain was so bad I had to leave my job in Wyoming  and suddenly I landed into a pit of negative attitude and things went terribly down hill from there, especially when doctors started filling me up with narcotics for the pain with the FSH I couldn't handle what was going on and with the negative attitude I was caring my life seemed to become unmanageable and when I thought that it really happened.  Today I am keeping a positive attitude and things are already looking up which I will take with you more later.

God Bless All Of You